2. You probably don't look your best.
Hate to break it to you, man. But it's time to be brutally honest and see what we are dealing with here.
Like every other interaction, first impressions can mean a lot. This applies to women, too.
Women are very detail oriented and sometimes, we, men, just aren't. In all honesty, how often do you wear those sweatpants out, even if it's just to do some 5-minute errand? We get it. Some clothes are more comfortable to wear than others. But boy, do women notice if you've made an effort or not.
It doesn't need to be big things. Try combing your hair. Wear a freshly laundered shirt that shows people you care about how you look. Look good and feel good.
You'd be surprised how the little details such as wearing decent clothes and having neater hairstyle can influence how warmly she'll respond to you.
3. Your energy and body language scream "I don't like you."
Before you say anything else, have you ever took a step back and looked at how you behave around women?
Take note of your body language. If you are guilty of not making any eye contact, crossing your arms, and pointing your legs in the opposite direction, then you are seriously emitting strong "Don't come near me" vibes.
Listen, man, women are very intuitive, and they can sense all kinds of energies. The vibe you are exuding might not be the most welcoming, to begin with.
This is a type of social defense mechanism. We can get in our heads and come up with a dozen worst case scenarios even before they happen. When that happens, we tend to get closed off and hide under the "indifferent facade" to protect ourselves.
But think about this. Put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you be much more receptive to people that make you feel that your presence is welcome? Exactly. Women just won't warm up to a guy that basically sends the signal "I'm not interested."
4. You are too overeager that you come off as creepy.
Sometimes, we can be too intense and overdo it — total overkill.
Instead of coming up to her like a normal human being, we overcompensate by being too eager.
When you immediately show too much intensity right at the beginning, she'll most likely label you as too strong and frankly, a tad too creepy.
Play it cool first. Don't wait on her hand and foot. Don't assault her with millions of personal questions. Don't overdo the sexiness that it isn't natural anymore. Or else, she'll see you as an annoying creep or worse, someone she can friendzone.
Always remember, she might not be as attracted to you as you are to her (yet). When you give out signals of being too interested in her, that might just end up pushing her away instead of pulling her to you.
5. You overcompensate with cockiness.
Have you ever heard of the term "peacocking"?
"Peacocking" is where you flaunt every one of your shiny and colourful feather for ladies to admire.
We hate to break it to you but that strategy will only backfire on your ass. Badly. That doesn't work because of: A. She'll only see it as a humble brag; B. She'll dismiss you as a douchebag; or, C. You'd only keep the conversation revolving around you.
You'll only put off quality girls who are actually relationship material and who would honestly love to get to know the real you. No posturing and pretenses needed.
Instead of actually like you, you'll only get her to roll her eyes at you and dismiss your ass faster than you can say "hello there."
Now for the part you've been waiting for: surefire tips on how to smoothly talk to girls. Are you ready? Let's begin.